Some people are often concerned about their relationship and bad times that happened to them. For example, after discussion they start asking themselves if this was the final person.
There is also the question “Are we able to go forward together or will it be better if we finish this relationship on time”?
The main protagonist of negative emotions is usually the fear: the fear that the relationship will not thrive, the fear of losing their own time, the fear of losing that special person and all that two persons have built together.
Here you can find 10 signs when something is wrong in your relationship
Some of these signs may warn you that something is wrong with your relationship. If you identify with all or many of them then seriously it’s time to talk!
1. You are bothered by too many things regarding your partner, e.g. his comments about something or their opinion, his speech, his behavior, his clothes etc. Also, sometimes you feel irritated by his presence and you often think about some aspects you would like him to change.
2. When you are separated you don’t miss your partner or you don’t feel the necessity to know where your partner is or what he is doing. You start to think that you are feeling much better when you’re alone or with other people like your friends.
3. You feel very uncomfortable when introducing your partner to other people in your life. When you two are with other people, like your friends or relatives, you feel tense, and the main reasons for that is the fear that he might say something wrong or embarrass you.
4. It has been a long time since you have expressed your feelings to your partner. You say “I love you” by simple habit, or you do not even say it at all.
5. Your sexual desire is dull or resentful. You start to have little or no sexual initiative or your desire is unbalanced. Remember, one partner usually desires more than the other which often leads to conflicts.
6. Sometimes a third person is starting to take a center stage in your life, although you find it hard to admit it or recognize it. However, in this case jealousy is also making a dent between you two and worsening the situation.
7. You have the feeling that you’re wasting your time with him when you could be doing more interesting things in life. The relationship becomes monotonous. Everything is concluded by bad times, arguments, anger and distancing.
8. You probably no longer have the same plans about your future together. You don’t see him beside you in a few years. You would rather not make plans that involve compromises between you two.
9. You’re thinking that you would be better alone or with another person. Often you have the idea or plan to end the relationship or you have already broken up several times in the last few months.
10. You start to feel unmotivated, unwilling to see your partner, you feel that you just don’t care about your partner anymore. Your emotions are asleep, you don’t feel happiness and you don’t feel anger or sadness because there’s only indifference to the relationship. This is often called “being by being in the relationship”, continuing together by habit or routine.
If you find yourself in this kind of situation, it’s certainly a complicated time for the relationship. At first you have to know that crises are normal and necessary. If you want to get rid of them, you have to do something different!
Sometimes it’s useless to persist in maintaining a relationship that no longer gives more of itself.
In other cases, it is a shame to throw the towel when what’s really needed is to implement certain changes.
At the end, the most important thing is to look at your situation very consciously, talking together, like two matures and grownups. Calmly, leaving aside impulsiveness, take your time and analyze your relationship.
